If you were trying to make a dating app that would bring people together for long term relationships, how would you structure it? Presume that you'd be running this platform at a loss and gave Zero Fucks about that (basically, pretend you're Elon trying to raise the TFR).
The 50 line for women is very true. And conversely, lying about your age UP is an excellent sex/hookup site strategy to filter the worst chaff out. I've been over 50 on sex sites since my late 40s and the change in the number of asshat messages was clear and noticeable.
More interestingly, though, perhaps, is that MIDDLE AGED men lie about *their* age a lot. And I don't mean, just putting it under the magic line of 50. I mean, by up to 10 years. Always down. And it starts around 52-53 but stretches alllllll the way up to their 60.
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If I were you I'd just round it up to 6'0. 99% of women can't tell an inch, and most won't care.
I'm 5'10 and list myself as 5'11, that lie gets me nothing. So I think I'll just increase the lie to 6'0. Maybe I'll put 5'10" in the text portion of the profile, so as to get through the filters, but probably not.
I abhor lying too, but thing is everyone does it on these dating apps to the point you almost have to, and there's no cost (and yes women lie about their age and no it's absolutely not simply rounding by 2-3 years from 51 to 49 or 48 ... it's listing age as 31 and the person who shows up looks 45). Women on these apps lie by a LOT, not simply a year or two if they are near a round number. FWIW I never "call out" these lying women, I simply have a conversation, pay for their drink, and don't ask them out again ... unless she's a hot 45 year old, in which case who cares, just mentally put her in the "casually date only" category.
When I first met my partner, who is six years older than I am, as things were getting hot and heavy she sat me down and looked into my eyes and said, "I want to make sure you know, I'm over 50," like it was some kind of dark admission. At the time I really wondered where the hell that came from.
>Most women can’t tell a one-inch difference, and some can’t tell a two-inch difference.
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If you were trying to make a dating app that would bring people together for long term relationships, how would you structure it? Presume that you'd be running this platform at a loss and gave Zero Fucks about that (basically, pretend you're Elon trying to raise the TFR).
Is it even doable at scale?
If you were 5’-6”, you wouldn’t have dared write this article.
The 50 line for women is very true. And conversely, lying about your age UP is an excellent sex/hookup site strategy to filter the worst chaff out. I've been over 50 on sex sites since my late 40s and the change in the number of asshat messages was clear and noticeable.
More interestingly, though, perhaps, is that MIDDLE AGED men lie about *their* age a lot. And I don't mean, just putting it under the magic line of 50. I mean, by up to 10 years. Always down. And it starts around 52-53 but stretches alllllll the way up to their 60.
If I were you I'd just round it up to 6'0. 99% of women can't tell an inch, and most won't care.
I'm 5'10 and list myself as 5'11, that lie gets me nothing. So I think I'll just increase the lie to 6'0. Maybe I'll put 5'10" in the text portion of the profile, so as to get through the filters, but probably not.
I abhor lying too, but thing is everyone does it on these dating apps to the point you almost have to, and there's no cost (and yes women lie about their age and no it's absolutely not simply rounding by 2-3 years from 51 to 49 or 48 ... it's listing age as 31 and the person who shows up looks 45). Women on these apps lie by a LOT, not simply a year or two if they are near a round number. FWIW I never "call out" these lying women, I simply have a conversation, pay for their drink, and don't ask them out again ... unless she's a hot 45 year old, in which case who cares, just mentally put her in the "casually date only" category.
Whenever there's a fence, it's a natural human tendency to try to get around it. :D
When I first met my partner, who is six years older than I am, as things were getting hot and heavy she sat me down and looked into my eyes and said, "I want to make sure you know, I'm over 50," like it was some kind of dark admission. At the time I really wondered where the hell that came from.